Koality Livin

aka Galentines day

Show your ladies some love today! True girlfriends are irreplaceable!

I didn’t know the true power of strong female friendships until I was 23. At that point I had a strong group of female friends that would go to the end of the earth for me, and I would do the same for them. I have been blessed with a few true girl friends in my life from the start. It began with 3 females, I would not have made it through high school without them. After graduation, I gained a couple more. It was not until I was 23 that I noticed that my group of girl friends had grown to a size larger than I ever expected. Our group was filled with bubbly, strong, loving women that wanted to build each other up, stand by each other during the hard times and never judged. I felt so lucky to be a part of something so amazing.

I went through the stage of having a boyfriend and letting my female friendships fall to the side because I had someone to spend all my time with, why did I need to put energy into creating other real connections? This was one of the biggest mistakes of my life. I left all my friends in the dust and surrounded myself with people that he wanted to hang out with. With no surprise, we broke up, I moved out, and I felt like I was left with no one, and I was the only one to blame for that. I reached out to old friends and was beyond thankful when they extended their hand back to me. It was then that I made a promise to myself that I would NEVER leave my ladies in the dust again.

Girl friends are always pushed to the side when a significant other becomes the center of our world, they are the most undervalued connection out there. But when that significant other leaves, and your heart is left on the floor, your girl friends are the first ones you call. They are right there to pick up the pieces and get you back on your feet, even if they are hurt that you left them in the dust when you had someone else.

DO NOT TAKE YOUR GIRL FRIENDS FOR GRANTED!

Prioritize your friendships with the strong ladies in your life like you prioritize your s/o, your family, your job, and even yourself. Make time for them; Sunday brunches, Friday dinners, Saturday morning yoga, weekday phone calls or dinner facetime dates if you are far away from your friends. Plan girls nights, girls trips & vacations to reconnect with those who are far away or too busy during everyday life to catch up in person. Check in on your girl friends, even if it’s just a quick text that says “hi, I hope you have a great day, I love you.”

These bonds that you are creating, they will last a lifetime if you nurture them.

To my ladies, I would not be half the woman I am today if I did not have you by my side throughout the years. This is to you; Shannon, Alicia, Amanda, Jocelyn, Cassie, Vanessa, Lauren, Ashleigh, Becca, Marissa, Sarah R, Haley, Caiti, Delaney, Brittanie, Ali, Brooke, Marah, & Katy. Thank you for always lifting me up, and never letting me face this world alone.

Please share in the comments how your female friendships have impacted your life, and ways you try to stay connected and nourish these friendships.